Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by
Amy Chua
My rating:
4 of 5 stars
This book caused a stir and at first I wasn't going to bother reading it, because I hate hyped up books like that. But then I thought why not, so I read it. My first impressions are that the whole Chinese/American way of doing things is a bit contrived. Really all the author knows for sure is the way she was brought up, and the way she brought up her children. She didn't interview hundreds, or even ten other Chinese families, and the same with American, to see how their methods stacked up. So that turned me off right from the get-go -- the generalization that there is this distinct line between Chinese (or Asian) and American parenting. Of course there are cultural differences, but the way she raised her daughters was ridiculous in my view. She was obsessed with them playing their instruments above and beyond anything normal, and while certainly some of her ideas made sense (she would say we American mom's just cave in to our children and don't FORCE them to do the things that they should) she just took it to a level beyond extreme. She had what most of us get -- the firstborn who will generally take on their parent's dreams for them, and the second child, who says **** you to such a notion. Nothing Chinese/American there! Just the way it is.
She admits towards the end that she has no capacity to have fun, and personally I found that to be just sad. S A D. I think what is most interesting is that this would be considered a book that would get published! Not that it is poorly written, not at all. But the subject matter could apply to ANY psychotic mother who is obsessed with pushing her children beyond normal boundaries. I've seen American moms who fit this profile. This is NOT a Chinese story.
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